5 Gift Ideas for Boyfriends That He Will Surely Adore How I Became Honest When I was in grade school I really enjoyed lying. Not the white lies you tell your mom when you ate cookies that you weren't supposed to. I'm talking about the elaborate lies you tell friends to make yourself appear to be better than you are. I remember convincing my friends in 3rd grade that my father was the President of Coca Cola. I remember convincing my friends in 5th grade that I had gone deaf in one ear. That was a lot of fun. As I got older, my lying continued. I enjoyed people's reactions to my seemingly amazing life. When I was 15 that all changed. I met someone I really looked up to (he was 17). He became a mentor for me as I began my foray into the astral world. He's the one who helped me raise my vibration so the "ookie spookies" wouldn't bother me. He's the one who put me on the path of honesty and integrity. And he did it by hurting me so badly that I changed instantly. Here's what happened. In my usual fashion, I told him lies just like I had been telling other people. I made up elaborate stories to get him to be more interested in me because I wasn't sure the truth would be enough to make him want to continue working with me. But he knew me so well, probably better than I knew myself. One day he told me, "I can't talk to you on the phone anymore because I can't see your eyes and so I'm not sure when you're lying to me." That really shocked me. One, because I didn't know he knew I had been lying to him sometimes, and two, because he was willing to end our friendship over those lies. I vowed in that moment that I would never lie to him again. It was a hard transition for me to make because I was used to exaggerating stories and experiences to get attention. But for him, and for his wise counsel, I made a pact with myself never to tell even one single white lie to him again. In time, his trust in me was rebuilt and we enjoyed a great friendship and relationship. That's how I learned the value of honesty. I decided that I would honor the truth. I decided that the truth was powerful and strong, and that lies merely created a false foundation that could crumble at the slightest poking. I realized that I felt more powerful when I told the truth. I felt like I was helping to build reality instead of creating a false Matrix-like reality. As Merlin said in the movie, Excalibur, to Arthur, "When a man lies, he murders some part of the world." It's true. Every lie you tell alters the universe and makes it unreal. In my 20's, I had a friend who was a pathological liar. Her life was based on lies and the elaborateness of her lies would put my early days to shame. We discussed honesty a lot, and I told her that I couldn't trust that she was telling me the truth since she told me so often of the lies she was telling other people. In a way, I did to her what my mentor did to me. I told her that I couldn't be her friend unless I knew I could trust her. She asked me how to be honest all the time. My answer was simple: Never do something you will have to lie about later. If you have to lie about it, you shouldn't be doing it. After all, if you feel good about what you're doing, why would you lie about it? Don't we lie when we are ashamed of who we are or what we've done? Make your life something you don't need to lie about. Value truth and honesty. Decide from this day forward that you will be completely honest and truthful in all your dealings (with others and yourself). Imagine what our world would be like if no one lied. Help create that world by honoring the truth.

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On the one hand, we want the age of consent to be lowered, and on the other, we treat virginity before marriage as sacred. We explore what gives. While there's a clamour to reduce the age of consent from 18 to 16, thereby granting more sexual freedom to our youth, we are also witnessing the invasion of the marketplace by products that promise to tighten, whiten, and brighten it down there. Are we confused or what? What is it that we want? This is the land where the Kamasutra originated, so why are people so obsessed with virginity? A city-based media professional, Divya K, says, "We are a nation of hypocrites and women are stupid for allowing a male-dominated ad world to tell them that having sex is not OK or that for some reason men want a tighter assets." She adds, "Indian males have always been insecure about the size of their member and perhaps, the size of their ego is the polar opposite of the size of their endowment." DJ Tuhin Mehta has a different take on it: "People want to be young even as they grow older. Maybe they are just confused and are trying to be who they are not, or rather what they are not." Perhaps the law makers need to be well-versed with the current scenario of the country before passing a law. Hair stylist Sangita Raj says, "People who make laws are ridiculous, and should think about what they would tell their children. In a country in which a four-year old can comfortably use an iPad, they should stop masking reality." Sangita feels that there is a generation gap now because young adults are progressive thinking. She says, "No one is going to care about a law that deals with matters hormonal, so kudos to lowering the age of consent." Some think that we are a patriarchal society and the thinking reflects in the actions of the people. "Those who want to raise the age of consent and those who endorse women using virginity restoring products are both upholders of patriarchy. It is hypocrisy to sell a product to women telling them it will sexually empower them, but the question that should be asked is, better for whom? Does the woman really care?" asks Madhuri VK, a mother of two. Progressive, or regressive? Model Rittvik Mudgal thinks that there is a disparity in thinking. He says, "It's funny that on one side they asking to lower down the age of consent and on the other hand, you have to be above 18 to watch mature movies. And as far as virginity products are concerned, I feel its all business. Human race has always been involved in innovations and giving new things to society be it highly useful or totally weird, so it's up to one to use such products or not." Sangita too, echoes similar sentiments when she say, "I think that the products marketed for virginity are more for upkeep. I don't even understand the fuss about these products, just because they are about female genital; they are looked upon as sexual. What a product is used for is consumer's choice, you can use or abuse. So, here I fail to understand the target audience because it's probably for married women." Entertainment professional, Rohit Barker sums it all up when he says, "I think we are hypocrites. We need a higher level of sex education in India, I see that completely lacking. One needs to be able to openly talk about sex because without proper knowledge it leads to complications and that is when we have thoughts like virginity is a virtue and so on."